Sunday, September 21, 2008

Parenting Savant

"Oh, man. That whining is hurting my ears. You're welcome to whine as much as you like, but do it in your bedroom, please," I say politely to whining Child.

"Oh," Child sniffs deeply, thoughtfully. "Thanks." Child calmly walks to bedroom, closes the door.

I lean against counter in slight disbelief , feeling like I've just discovered barium, or split the atom, or perhaps remained in the running towards being America's Next Top Parent.

Am suddenly getting the hang of this.

25 comments:

Marinka said...

Congrats! Don't be discouraged by "minor setbacks", such as discovering that the Child is spending the time in own room to plan world annihilation.

Cheri @ Blog This Mom! said...

Three kids and fifty-four years combined years of parenting later, now I find the answer.

smalltownmom said...

So simple!

Sometimes I would whine right back and that freaked them out.

(And I was always tempted by the childish response of sticking my fingers in my ears and going "la la la I can't hear you.")

a Tonggu Momma said...

The Tongginator doesn't go to her room to whine... she heads to the basement because that's the location of our bar. She's only allowed to whine at the wine glasses.

Madge said...

Genius. It's so easy to get into a power play with the whining.........

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

I can't believe Cheri had to tally the years--I'm at 62! That's a little frightening.

Louise said...

I hope it lasts. My whiner won't stop no matter what. If she's in her room, I can still hear her.

Hats off to you!

MamaGeek said...

From one whino (err I mean mother of a whiner) to another, I bow down for this advice. Because nothing (NOTHING) has worked to date.

Irene said...

That was a brilliant thought of you and you caught the child completely off guard. Good for you, I hope you can keep doing that. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Dr. Cason said...

It's a fluke! No- just kidding. You're awesome! :)

Sheri said...

Great come back to the whininess! Sometimes it's the most simple thing that works best, but it usually takes me a long time to figure out that is. Enjoy your freedom from whining!

Minnesota Matron said...

Love this. We always say "Please cry in your room."

the cheap chick said...

Excellent parenting! Two points for you!

stu said...

sweet

Casey said...

What an awesome discovery!

All Adither said...

That's awesome. My kids would never in a hundred and fifty million years turn and walk into their rooms. They'd cling to my leg and whine louder.

bluemountainsmary said...

This is a very good tip.

I believe firmly in turning on the laptop and completely getting lost in my blogging friends' posts.

I never hear the whining then!

heartfull said...

Haha.

Well, I think I have said the exact same thing and I'm sorry to say that it did work, but only once. She caught on.

We have never had *too* much of a problem with whining. Yeah, it is there but not horribly so. What I can't stand, though, is the god-awful wailing. I swear, sometimes they sound like a dying cow. This is especially true as they get older and, dang it, they are just too old to cry like that.

Liz said...

That's hilarious.

~m said...

oooo, thanks for the tip! ;)

Angie said...

Ha! This reminded me of a similar story when my youngest was about 3 and had the bad habit of throwing tantrums/banging her head, etc.

After her sister pissed her off about something, she said, "mom, I'm really mad now, can I go to my room to throw my fit?"

dkuroiwa said...

oh my...it's the simple things that will do it every time. good for you. I hope it works next time...and for the other one, too!!
I'm going to try that next time my "whiner" starts up!!

Ashley said...

I told my son the other day "Owen it's really weird..." "What's that Mommy?" "I can't understand you at all when you use that voice, it's the strangest thing..." in a deeper voice "Is this better Mommy?" "YES it IS, I can understand you!" again in a deep voice "Mommy PLEASE may I have cookies before dinner?" Hoping this continues to work.

Patti said...

No. You're not. You think you are, but then they change. Lather, rinse, repeat.

booksflowers said...

Are you doing Love and Logic? Glad it is working for you... don't you love the shocked look on your kids face?